Don’t Avoid Pain
Would you exercise simply to avoid gaining weight? What if you created a budget with the intention of avoiding going broke? How would feel every day going to the gym or every time you resist a purchase?
What if the goal was not to eliminate or get rid of the pain? What if instead, we could use pain to become more evolved into the person we are meant to be?
It’s tough to get motivated when the outcome is to avoid something. This is much less empowering than having the intention to gain something or better yet, BEcome something.
Instead, what if you exercise daily to become happier, healthier, and more vital? What if you budgeted to create more wealth and financial freedom for yourself and your family? How would your views surrounding these activities change?
If you live to avoid pain you will be avoiding it the rest of your life. It will always remain within our perceptual and energetic field. What we avoid becomes our anchor.
A New Way to Look at Pain
If the check engine light in your car came on, would you cover it up with a piece of tape? If you care about your car, you’ll likely take it to get checked out.
Pain is our body’s way of communicating with us. The intelligence within us knows we are not living at our full potential and is asking us to Pay Attention Inside Now. Instead of focusing on “getting rid of” then pain, what if we looked at what our pain is trying to tell us?
Does pain remind you of a weakness?
Is pain reinforcing a deep fear or excuse?
Do we project our pain onto others?
Are we resisting something in our life?
The first step in answering some of these questions is to ask yourself “what disempowering emotions do I feel as a result of my pain?”
Pain is the language of our body and emotions are the language of our Nervous System. In order to understand pain, we must be willing to look at the emotions behind it. At the root of our disempowered emotions, is one, or more of our basic human needs not being met. These include certainty, variety, connection, significance, growth, contribution, and love.
While our pain may be the source of an accident, our suffering usually stems from one of these basic needs not being met. Focusing on eliminating our pain will not eliminate the suffering we feel from not having our needs met. This further perpetuates a sub-optimal life.
Pain is Inevitable, Suffering is a Choice.
How we choose to look at pain plays a significant role in the severity, duration, and quality of our life. The more we focus on our pain, and all the ways to get rid of it, the more it consumes us. Soon we identify with our pain and when we do, we disconnect from our true authentic self.
As a result, our internal vibration and frequency become less and less. We begin to lose our vitality, we have a hard time enjoying the things we love, we lose connection to our family and friends, we experience more fear, guilt, and shame. This is suffering.
It is understandable that the pain of a paper cut is different from the pain of a broken bone. Just as the pain from stubbing your toe is different from the loss of a loved one, or some form of neglect or abuse. The internal adaptation and resiliency needed to overcome a paper cut is far less than any of those other experiences.
But imagine the person you must BEcome to be greater than the pain of a broken bone or the pain of losing a loved one. Imagine who the person would BE who could look back at an abusive experience and feel peace. What would the other areas of that person’s life be like?
Integrate Pain for an Optimal Life
When we integrate an experience, we add the frequency of that experience to our own frequency for the purpose of becoming more evolved. At a subatomic level, we raise our internal frequency and we become GREATER than the experience.
Now, this doesn’t make the experience any less traumatic or painful. It doesn’t mean that moving on from losing a loved one should be quick and easy and it doesn’t make whatever abuse was done acceptable or okay. But, when we look at our pain with the intention of growing and evolving to BEcome greater than the experience, we take control of our life.
We begin to embody who we are and what we are made of. We then begin to experience more joy and happiness in life, we are more connected to our vision and higher purpose, and we express more vitality, as we grow more into our true authentic self. This is healing and becoming more whole.
The pain becomes the sail to our ship on our way to living our best life rather than the anchor weighing us down and keeping us in suffering.
The purpose of this post is not to downplay painful life experiences or belittle anyway who is or has ever, suffered. Rather, the intention is to remind you of the infinite innate intelligence within all of us. The same intelligence that powers the sun, lights our world, propels the wind and gives life to the trees and plants lives inside each and every one of us.
We are created in the highest form and meant to live the same. Any time we experience anything but joy, abundance, or prosperity means we’ve temporarily lost touch with who we are. Looking at our pain in a new light is the first step in reconnecting us to our true selves.